Do men need Emotional Intelligence?
That depends…
Do men need to increase self-awareness?
Do men need to improve their leadership performance?
Do men need to forge stronger, more connected relationships?
Do men need to raise their influence and impact?
Do men need to become better fathers and spouses?
Do men need to feel happier, fulfilled, successful and significant?
Uh… yeah… they do.
For some reason many men have been taught that feeling and expressing emotions – particularly those of empathy, compassion and love – make you soft. They make you weak. They make you less of a man.
They're taught that 'crying is for girls' and talking about your feelings makes you a *wuss (*this is usually replaced with a more offensive word).
I'm here to tell you that nothing could be further from the truth.
I am a man. I am Emotionally Intelligent man. I am proud to say that my high Emotional Intelligence is arguably my strongest superpower.
I have the ability to recognize, understand and process not only my own emotions, but the emotions of others.
This helps me custom frame every interaction and every relationship, build deep and connected relationships and multiply my impact and influence.
This has made me a better father, a better coach and a better entrepreneur. It has allowed me to find strength in vulnerability and be truly open to attracting everything I want in life.
I wasn't born with Emotional Intelligence. In fact, I wasn't taught it growing up. Emotional Intelligence eluded me for the vast majority of my life. Until I met Susan.
Susan was therapist I visited once a week for nearly two years when my (ex) wife and I decided to get divorced.
Susan helped me realize that I've always had Emotional Intelligence… I just didn't know it. It was blocked. It was obstructed. I didn't know how to access it (or even why I should).
Susan helped me reframe my perspective on what it meant to be masculine.
She empowered me to see the real power behind Emotional Intelligence and why it was the gateway to personal happiness, fulfilling relationships and ultimate significance.
This didn't happen quickly. Nor was it easy. But it is, without question, the most impactful thing I have ever done in my life. I am a better man now. I take pride in teaching my 8-year-old twin sons, Luke and Jack, how to be Emotionally Intelligent.
I take equal pride in teaching motivated, driven and committed men – executives, coaches, fathers – how to do the same.
I want as many men as possible to have the same superpower I have so they can live life to the fullest and enjoy unparalleled success.
So you tell me… do men need Emotional Intelligence?